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• rizalyn

  
   

  February 27, 2011 7:08:01 AM CET

  Hi all,
  My name is Rizalyn. I'm new here and I have a question for everyone. My brother is kind of lonely. He doesn't have many friends and is looking for a woman who will love and accept him. Even though he's a sweet and wonderful guy, he just has no luck with the opposite sex. For some reason, the women he meets around here just won't give him a chance. I've tried all I can to help him, but to no avail.
  
  Recently, he's been exploring the concept of foreign brides and considering possibly even living overseas. He found a website that inspired him and convinced him of this endeavor too. So I'm wondering, since some of you seem to have experience living overseas, can you tell me if this is a wise choice for him, to find love and friendship overseas? Are foreign women somehow better or more accepting? Or will they just use him to try to get a green card and for his money? I'm kind of worried about him and don't wanna see him disappointed or hurt again.
  
  He ecstatically showed me these comparisons from one of the sites he frequents that inspired him.
  
  http://www.happierabroad.com/comparison.htm
  
  And these general comparisons on its main page:
  
  http://www.happierabroad.com
  
  This site makes a lot of bold black and white claims about women in America vs. other countries, as well as the social atmosphere and how much more inclusive it is overseas. The guys on the forum at the site above have motivated him too, ever since he started posting there.
  
  So basically I'm wondering how accurate such comparisons as the ones at the links above are? Are foreign women really more friendly and less shallow and less materialistic than here in America? Or is that just a stereotype? And most importantly, will they treat him better so that he will be happier? Also, are people more friendly and inclusive in general overseas, as the link above claims? I guess I can kind of see the latter at least cause in America, we are more into our privacy and don't talk to our neighbors much, so I can see how some collectivist cultures might seem more inclusive. But the foreign women part I'm not so sure. I just want what's best for my brother.
  
  Now I know that there are cultural differences between countries, but are they really as great as that site makes them out to be? Or are they being exaggerated?
  
  I guess I could have asked the folks in the forum of the site he visits above, but I know that being fans of that site, they are going to be biased towards it. So I thought it'd be better to get a more neutral third party opinion instead. That's why I came here.
  
  So anyway, I am wondering how accurate the claims of that site are, and whether my brother is making a wise choice or not. And if he is, which country should he go to? Can anyone here share their experiences in this area? I just want what's best for him.
  
  Thanks in advance for any help or advice.
  
  Rizalyn
  
  
  
  
• lisafromfrance

  
   

  February 27, 2011 10:39:13 AM CET

  Hello,
  
  Fist thing: you cannot compare "america" to "the rest of the world".
  it's a very centrist position that forget the other contries are all very different.
  for example: europe is made of different countries with different codes for relationships. italian guys do not behave the same way than french ones, which themselves are differents with women than english ones, etc.
  
  secondly:
  its true there are different but from my point of view some are really overexagerated (simplify is never the truth)
  go to www.understandfrance.org to have a more realistic point of view.
  
  Good luck for your borther!
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

  rizalyn (Feb 27 2011, 06:08 AM) said: > original post
  Hi all,
  My name is Rizalyn. I'm new here and I have a question for everyone. My brother is kind of lonely. He doesn't have many friends and is looking for a woman who will love and accept him. Even though he's a sweet and wonderful guy, he just has no luck with the opposite sex. For some reason, the women he meets around here just won't give him a chance. I've tried all I can to help him, but to no avail.
  
  Recently, he's been exploring the concept of foreign brides and considering possibly even living overseas. He found a website that inspired him and convinced him of this endeavor too. So I'm wondering, since some of you seem to have experience living overseas, can you tell me if this is a wise choice for him, to find love and friendship overseas? Are foreign women somehow better or more accepting? Or will they just use him to try to get a green card and for his money? I'm kind of worried about him and don't wanna see him disappointed or hurt again.
  
  He ecstatically showed me these comparisons from one of the sites he frequents that inspired him.
  
  http://www.happierabroad.com/comparison.htm
  
  And these general comparisons on its main page:
  
  http://www.happierabroad.com
  
  This site makes a lot of bold black and white claims about women in America vs. other countries, as well as the social atmosphere and how much more inclusive it is overseas. The guys on the forum at the site above have motivated him too, ever since he started posting there.
  
  So basically I'm wondering how accurate such comparisons as the ones at the links above are? Are foreign women really more friendly and less shallow and less materialistic than here in America? Or is that just a stereotype? And most importantly, will they treat him better so that he will be happier? Also, are people more friendly and inclusive in general overseas, as the link above claims? I guess I can kind of see the latter at least cause in America, we are more into our privacy and don't talk to our neighbors much, so I can see how some collectivist cultures might seem more inclusive. But the foreign women part I'm not so sure. I just want what's best for my brother.
  
  Now I know that there are cultural differences between countries, but are they really as great as that site makes them out to be? Or are they being exaggerated?
  
  I guess I could have asked the folks in the forum of the site he visits above, but I know that being fans of that site, they are going to be biased towards it. So I thought it'd be better to get a more neutral third party opinion instead. That's why I came here.
  
  So anyway, I am wondering how accurate the claims of that site are, and whether my brother is making a wise choice or not. And if he is, which country should he go to? Can anyone here share their experiences in this area? I just want what's best for him.
  
  Thanks in advance for any help or advice.
  
  Rizalyn

  
  
  
• NicolasAlianeDufresne

  

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  January 22, 2013 11:02:02 AM CET

  I disagree with Lisa.

  I am french and i think that french women are like any european women and any american women.

  I have not found any difference in dating an american woman or a french woman. There are cultural differences but those cultural differences do not affect the relationship.

   

  I have found another link to a website where a specialist states that south american women are "generally" better than french or american women (western women in general) because he states that western women have high expectations when they look for a boyfriend or husband.

   

  http://datingcoach.cc/opinion-about-dating-non-western-women/