May 27, 2007 1:39:52 AM CEST
I try and try to be patient and remember that this is the Dutch way, they say things not always intended to hurt but they are just tactless. But it happens over and over and I get frustrated. I was telling the garden guy a story about a mate of mine and he immediately said "Is he American" because the chap liked convenience foods. I said no he is English, and the reason Americans need convenience foods is that they work very long hours unlike here. I know he was not trying to hurt my feelings, but I hate people generalising about my country when they know so little. The guy went on to say "Americans forget to live". Dude, I am from a place where you work long and hard as it is not so easy to get money from the gov't as it is here, and work is more valued there.
I do make judgments about the Dutch but at least I have lived here almost 5 years, this guy has never been to the states and knows nothing about it. I just get so sick of the Dutch saying Americans do this and Americans do that and they have never even VISITED let alone lived there!
I have the same sort of responses from my Dutch friends about Americans. And I might add, none them have ever set foot on USA soil, let alone lived there. It makes me angry too, but I fear this is the opinion of many Europeans. They just seem to base their views on what they watch on TV, or read in the media.
I was born/raised in the UK, but had the most fantastic experience living in the States for three years and discovered that although the working hours can be long, my American friends really knew how to live life to the full in their social time. They were some of the most welcoming and kindest people I have ever met, and never had a bad word against other nationalities.
Yes, but Americans
don't talk badly about other nationalities .... Europeans
talk badly about other nationalties
Americans talk about ... other
I remember a Dutch colleague asking me if Americans dislike Germans too. Ummm I just looked at him. :| That particular
thought would have never entered my mind in a million years.
If a German guy lived in the States ... he would just be another White guy. So what would be the problem?
Why? Because Europeans are 'nationalists' meaning your nationality is an issue (and sometimes that nationality happens to correspond with another race). Whereas the Americans .. well the Americans are 'racists' - meaning the color of your skin
is the issue (and that sometime coincides with another nationality).
This is a huge cultural distinction that most Europeans don't 'get'.