So My Wife asked me to move out as few weeks ago, which I did. She said she needed some space and time because she has lost feelings for me. We have had a rocky relationship (2 years married Dated 3 years) we get is some heated arguments about incidents in the past that for some reason we have not been able to let go of. There has been time in the past where I wanted to give up, but I know we haven’t taken the proper steps to resolve our issues.

Well she decided she wanted to work things out so we are starting counseling. I am sleeping in the office and trying to give her the space she needs. But haven’t been doing so well. She tells me she out of love with me and has no feelings for me. She says she should be feeling something when I hug her or kiss her on the cheeks, but she doesn’t. The Dr. believes she has a wall up and we just need to get it down. However my wife does not believe she has a wall up. But anytime I go to hug or kiss her, she tenses up like I’m a stranger. Like she is not even allowing herself to feel.

So I guess here’s my question.. what can I do (Other than giving her space) to deposit into her love bank without putting pressure on her. I know many people have been in my shoes so I am hoping I can get some ideas or advice. Thanks and sorry for the book.

It sounds like he wants to keep you at his side, so he can go back to you if things work out. Or he's really missing you and he's hoping you come back to him (male stubbornness!).

Honestly though, it could be anything, its hard to say when feelings are involved. But if you think he's worth at the least keeping as a friend just keep things cool between you and stay in touch. If he wants to get back to the good old days of married life, it’s fine. You can always build up a successful married life. You may get very good tips to make your reunion real successful by Dr. Max's Marriage Blueprint™ Approach www.marriageblueprint.com Dr. Max's Marriage Blueprint™ Approach Makes YOU the Experts of Your Marriage and Frees You From the Confusing, Confining Restraints of Traditional Marriage Therapy…

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My wife and I have been together for 12 years and married for 5. Apparently she fell out of love for me even before we got married, but we are such good friends and have such a wonderful relationship aside from that, that she though it would be enough. Wrong. She has been having an affair for the last two months! I found out a month ago and we are in counseling, but she has not cut things off with him completely. She says that she loves him and that she has not felt the love for me for years. She has no hope that she can love me again. Does anyone know how I can convince her or help to realize that love can be re-built? If she had some hope she might be motivated to try. For now, she is not sure what to do, but I believe she is heading his way...not mine. Please give me any pointers/ideas you might have. Thank you

Have you both been in grief counseling these last three years? Any marital counseling (MC)? Sounds like you both put your children in the first priority spot and then your marriage in your second one...would that be accurate?

How do you know you've hurt him?

Have you read all the articles here on this website? About The Love Bank (which can run empty like we have no feelings at all...when we do), Emotional Needs (ENs), Love Busters (LBs) which make withdrawals from the love bank to the tune of about one LB wiping out 20 EN deposits...and The Four Rules of Marriage? But, the best is Dr. Max's Marriage Blueprint

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So My Wife asked me to move out as few weeks ago, which I did. She said she needed some space and time because she has lost feelings for me. We have had a rocky relationship (2 years married Dated 3 years) we get is some heated arguments about incidents in the past that for some reason we have not been able to let go of. There has been time in the past where I wanted to give up, but I know we haven’t taken the proper steps to resolve our issues.

Well she decided she wanted to work things out so we are starting counseling. I am sleeping in the office and trying to give her the space she needs. But haven’t been doing so well. She tells me she out of love with me and has no feelings for me. She says she should be feeling something when I hug her or kiss her on the cheeks, but she doesn’t. The Dr. believes she has a wall up and we just need to get it down. However my wife does not believe she has a wall up. But anytime I go to hug or kiss her, she tenses up like I’m a stranger. Like she is not even allowing herself to feel.

So I guess here’s my question.. what can I do (Other than giving her space) to deposit into her love bank without putting pressure on her. I know many people have been in my shoes so I am hoping I can get some ideas or advice. Thanks and sorry for the book.