Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I haven't had a child abroad, but I'm pregnant right now and to be honest, I've been very happy with the care I've received. I have all of my appointments at the hospital (I had surgery early on in my pregnancy so I've been under their care for the duration) and they're usually every four weeks.
Every time I go the appointment is rather quick - how are you? Any complaints? Then they'll take my blood pressure and check the heartbeat or take a quick ultrasound (the nice part about going to the hospital is that they have all that equipment on hand). I've only had one internal exam, when I was about six months pregnant or so, to measure the length of my cervix. I've never been weighed either.
At first I thought it was a bit odd, I thought they would ask me more pointed questions, but instead they ask leading questions and let me lead the conversation with my own questions/concerns/fears etc. They really have a 'take charge of your own body' attitude which I have grown to appreciate. I know when something isn't right within myself, I don't need them to put ideas into my head. Of course at the right times during the pregnancy I've been sent for all the necessary testing (iron levels, sugar, echoes etc etc. And they don't push the genetic testing - it's really your own choice if you want to have it done). I've gone from being quite scared at the beginning to really enjoying my pregnancy and looking forward to an intervention-free (if possible!!) birth. I think honestly a lot of my fears were tied up in how medicalised the birth process is at home (Australia) and the dependence on pain relief (epidural scares the crap out of me).
I do however, find myself walking out of the appointments and ten minutes later slapping myself on the forehead as I've forgotten to ask something, so now I try to write everything down (and blame my baby brain).
I've had a few complications throughout the pregnancy and a few overnight stays in the hospital and if anything, I've found the staff to be over-cautious (keeping me in for extra days when I really just want to go home and feel fine), definitely not the other way around.
Good luck, keep us posted!