January 24, 2007 1:01:23 PM CET
Have you both been in grief counseling these last three years? Any marital counseling (MC)? Sounds like you both put your children in the first priority spot and then your marriage in your second one...would that be accurate?
How do you know you've hurt him?
Have you read all the articles here on this website? About The Love Bank (which can run empty like we have no feelings at all...when we do), Emotional Needs (ENs), Love Busters (LBs) which make withdrawals from the love bank to the tune of about one LB wiping out 20 EN deposits...and The Four Rules of Marriage? But, the best is Dr. Max's Marriage Blueprint
I know you can do it.
You're not alone